Often people don’t see, rather under the pressure of their
instantaneous rage, they fail to notice the difference between “lie” and “un-true”
yes there lies a difference between these two seemingly similar terms, and a
very radical difference for it is of “intention”. Although it is said that the
worst pains are inflicted upon from people with good intentions, nevertheless
intentions matter. It is easier and more understandable to forgive a person who
went astray on the path to doing good for you than anyone else.
Sometime a person does not lie to you, however what they may
say to you may be un-true. For example, somebody said they would do something
for you, and at that moment they truly meant it with all the honesty in the
world but then they don’t simply because they didn't feel like it; now this
does not mean that they don’t care about you but that they don’t care about you
in that particular moment because it’s not possible to see rainbows all the
time.
What will happen next is that you will question them,
because nine out of ten times people are held responsible for their words,
which they fail to recognize. So when you will question them, you will
indirectly be raising finger at their sincerity which you in your position are
perfectly credible to do but in their position, it will be an “attack” so
depending on the person’s maturity level the person will get defensive.
Defensive not only against you but also against their own self because their
conscience and their true and deep care for you is not letting them get away
with the idea that they momentarily didn't care so they create justifications not
only to satisfy you but also to satisfy their conscience. For this purpose they
will first make their self believe the excuse they present and then will try to
convince you, hence telling the “lie” without believing it to be a lie
themselves which explains how they are not actively telling a lie, rather
saying un-true statements.
Lastly to clarify, good intentions are not a regular excuse to deceive ourselves and those we love and sometimes no matter how intensely you want someone to care, they will not! So don't try to use the idea of "un-true" in place of lie just because it fits to your convenience. To determine whether the person truly cares is completely up to your and only your judgement because the chemistry between two individuals is a matter to their discretion only. Know what you're doing and decide with reason and understanding of the other.
